If there’s one thing that comes up with every person I’ve ever worked with, it’s worthiness. Better yet, the feeling of not being worthy. This is something that crosses all ages, gender, social status or any other segmentation you can think of. The shocking reality of our society as it mirrors through my practice is of unworthiness, pure and simple.
The Inner Bully
It is still unclear to me why it is so easy for us, humans, to believe in the negative so easily and quickly. It seems that we are much more prone to accept bad or negative reality than good or positive one. Much of this inclination I assign to what I call – The Inner Bully. It appears that most of us are dialoguing with ourselves in a much aggressive manner. And that’s an understatement. When it’s time to “let-someone-have-it” so to speak, we volunteer ourselves and show no mercy.
The result of our behaviour is us walking around with an extended degree of self-hatred and a very low level of self-esteem. Be honest with yourself: how many times have you called yourself “stupid” in the past week/month/year? How many times have you really wanted something but convinced yourself you are just not deserving of it? How often do you dismiss yourself in an angry and raging way?
The outrageous fact is that most of us are not even aware of the destructive manner in which we abuse ourselves. It seems so natural and acceptable to treat ourselves that way. The repetitive self-bullying that we practise comes with its prices, and they are dear.
Changing The Dialogue
So, the urging question – what to do? As always, my advice goes to self-awareness work. Awareness gives us the gift of choice. Once we are aware of something, we can choose whether or not we want to keep it. Any journey for change starts with self-awareness.
Once you are aware, start the change. How? Take your pick. The most important thing for you is to find a way that you are comfortable with, and that is proving itself to work for you. I do a lot of work with myself and my clients using PSYCH-K and Breathwork. These methods have proven themselves to be highly effective.
“Self worth comes from one thing – thinking that you are worthy” Wayne Dyer